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1. TELL HIM you love him. 2. Make his favorite meal. (Or introduce him to a new recipe that might become his new favorite: check out our manly menu for Father's Day, favorite grilling recipes, and casserole contest winners for inspiration.) 3. Leave a short & sweet note on the bathroom mirror for him. 4. Arrange for him to go golfing on a Saturday. 5. Say you're sorry first. 5. Iron his shirts for him. 6. Notice something he has mentioned needing to replace or has been wanting and get it for him. (Even something small, like new razor blades.) 7. Plan a date for the two of you and don't tell him what any of the plans are. (Check out our list of 50 great date ideas for cheap or free for some great ideas.) 8. Ask him what's one thing you could do that would help him feel more satisfied with life, then follow through. 9. Make a card from scratch (no matter how limited your skills) to tell him how you feel about him. 10. Pray for him--in your own prayers and your family/couple prayers, so he can hear. 11. Give him a foot rub. 12. Make a list of things you love about him, write them on sticky notes, and hide them all over the house so he'll continue finding them throughout the week. 13. Watch the ball game with him, and if you don't understand what's going on, ask questions--he'll appreciate your efforts and interest. 14. Ask his advice--then take it! 15. Thank him for the things he does around the house regularly--whether it's taking out the trash, sorting through the mail, managing bills, or anything else. 16. Find and frame an old photo of your early dating or married days. Give it to him to keep on his desk at work. (And on a related note, check out this classic photo of President Uchtdorf and his wife just after they were married.) 17. Take a night off to spend time with him, rather than listing all the things you need to do when he suggests relaxing with a movie. 18. Love yourself, and don't put yourself down. If you're happy, he'll be happy. 19. Encourage him to spend a night out with his friends. 20. Send him a text message during the day letting him know you're thinking about him. 21. Run some errands for him that he hasn't been able to get to--like taking the car to get the oil changed or picking up his dry cleaning. 22. Tell your children what you love about their dad. 23. Give him a long kiss once you're both home at the end of the day. 24. Pick out a movie he would love (but that you would normally veto) and watch it together. 25. Keep his confidences--your girlfriends don't need to know everything. 26. Start a hobby together. 27. On your next date, make an extra effort to look your best and get dressed up for him. 28. Don't nag him. 29. Thank him often and verbally for being a good husband and father. Mention specific things you appreciate. 30. Buy his favorite book for him, or buy him a new one you think he'd love, like No Excuses, No Regrets: The Eric Weddle Story. 31. Give him the TV remote. 32. Cuddle with him on the couch after the kids have gone to bed and ask him about his day. 33. Surprise him with a clean car and a full tank. 34. Make a to-do list with him of all the things you'd like to do with him in the next year. (Fun things, big or small, not tasks!) 35. Look at him appreciatively throughout the day--and let him catch you doing it. 36. Take a picture of him on your phone when you catch him doing something great or sweet, and set it as your background. 37. Look after him when he's sick. 38. Listen to him with undivided attention--no multi-tasking! 39. Tell him what you loved most about him when you first met. 40. Tell him what you love most about him today. 41. Buy him a gift card to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet. 42. Surprise him with a romantic evening. 43. Think of his most annoying habit. Now, let it go. 44. Give him time to unwind after a long day's work without immediately adding to his to-do list or complaining about your day. 45. Support him in his goals and help him to pursue them. 46. Write him love notes and hide them in his suitcase when he goes on business trips. 47. Hold his hand while you're at the grocery store or in the car. 48. Rather than just asking him to take care of that household project, do it together. 49. Recreate your first date or other memorable moments during your courtship. 50. And, again, TELL HIM you love him.Read our companion article, 50 Ways to Show Your Wife You Love Her, here.
I’ve been trying to write about how to bring the tension level down in marriage and have more fun–instead of feeling as if marriage has to be a hard slog. Earlier this month we looked at 79 hobbies to do as a couple. I’m spending this week recording the audio version of The Great Sex Rescue in a recording studio, so I thought today I’d rerun another important post that can help make marriage more fun and help you feel closer–even when life is tough. When our son was terminally ill, a counselor we were seeing suggested that we each make a list of 20 things that the other person could do for us that would make us feel loved and special, just to keep our marriage close during a really difficult time. In every good marriage you need to find non-sexual ways of showing your spouse love–that you’re thinking about them and you care about them. Show Your Spouse Love–The RulesI wanted to show my husband Keith that I loved him, but it was hard when we were going through such a difficult time. How do you get yourself out of your head enough to think about someone else when you’re hurting so much? But doing this exercise really helped us. It took the guesswork out of wondering how your husband felt loved (and he didn’t have to worry about how to make me feel loved!) We simply wrote up the lists together, exchanged them, and then committed to doing roughly two things on that list each day. I can’t tell you what a difference it made in our marriage! If your husband’s willing to do this, I recommend it wholeheartedly. But if he’s not, you can still make your own list of ways to show your husband love. And while saying “I love you” is nice, learning how to love your husband in actions is usually more important. When we act love, we feel love. And when we act love, he will feel loved, too! Actions often speak louder than words. So here are some ideas to get you started: Show Your Husband Love–The Ideas
1 Do little favors for him. One way to show your husband that you love him is to do little favors that let him see how much you care for him. If he’s having a busy week at work or just a rough day, then making the effort to help him out during his daily life can really show him that you love him and that you care about him.
2 Make time for date nights. Don’t just watch a movie at home with the kids or consider your date night the afternoon you’ve spent at your company picnic.[1]
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3 Give him a massage. Sometimes, the best way you can show your love is through action. If your husband had a long day at work, or even if he just looks a little down, take the time to massage his neck, back, shoulders, or, if you’re really feeling loving, his feet.
4 Have him lay down and really get the kinks out of his back. This can be a great way to show your love just because, or an amazing way to transition into some foreplay.
5 Make an effort to get along with his family. If you really want to show your husband that you love him, then you have to make him see that you’re determined to have a positive relationship with his family, even if you don’t always get along.
6 Embark on new adventures together. Another way to show your husband you love him is to go on new adventures together to keep your relationship fresh. This can mean trying to go scuba-diving, taking a biking trip along the California coast, or even taking a salsa class. It’s not really important what you do, as long as you make an effort to keep things feeling new and exciting.[2] 7 Keep things fresh in the bedroom. Though making love isn’t the only way you can show how much you care, making an effort to have a passionate, exciting time in the bedroom can make your husband see that you really do care for him. [3]
8 Respect his independence. You may think that the only way you can show your husband how much you love him is by getting closer to him, but sometimes, the best way to show how much you care is to give him the space he needs and deserves.[4]
9 Embrace his interests once in a while. Though you don’t need to be obsessed with his favorite baseball team or band all the time, if you want to show him you love him, you should show an interest in the things he cares about and do them with him, if that would suit him.[5] 1 Encourage him. Sometimes, the best way you can make your husband see how much you love him is to encourage him through your words. Make him feel good about the new project he’s been working on, his new job interview, or about patching things up with his father.[6] 2 Tell him that you love him. Saying "I love you" can often do the trick best of all. Make an effort to tell your husband you love him at least once a day and to look him in the eyes when you say it so he knows you mean it.
3 Give him sweet compliments. Taking the time to compliment your husband can also make him feel loved. Tell him how handsome he looks in his new shirt, say that he always knows how to make you laugh, and tell him that he’s incredibly good with new people.[7] 4 Ask him about his day. Just making an effort to show that you want to know how your husband’s day went can show him how much you love him.
5 Send him sweet text messages. Another way to show your husband that you love him is to send him a sweet text message to show how much you care. As long as it is sincere and makes him smile, you’ll be on your way to making him feel more loved.[8] 6 Practice open communication. If you want your husband to see that you love him, then you should show him that you’re willing to talk to him about anything and that you’re happy to have an honest and open conversation with him.[9]
7 Compromise. Another way to show your husband that you really love him is to be able to compromise about the things that matter to you both. Find a way to sometimes get what you want, sometimes give him what he wants, and to compromise on situations where there’s something possible for both of you. Compromising is an important part of showing your love because this will make your husband see that you really do care whether or not he’s fulfilled and happy.[10]
8 Say you’re sorry. To show your husband that you love him, it’s important to swallow your pride and to say you’re sorry when you’ve made a mistake. Stop everything you’re doing, look him in the eye, and tell him that you truly apologize for what you did and that you’re filled with regret and promise not to do it again[11]
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