How to know if a man really loves you

The first few months of dating can be pretty confusing. It’s all about the heat and the passion. For the most part, you have no idea what is actually going on. However, as a little time passes, you settle down and feel a bit more at ease around your guy. There does come a point however when you start to wonder about the big “L” and if you’re able to find the signs a man loves you without a doubt in your romance.

You might have already decided that you love him, or you might not be sure yet. If you’re looking for signs he loves you, they’re actually pretty easy to pick up on if you know what to look for.

However, they’re also pretty easy to miss and pass off as something else entirely! [Read: 30 facts about guys that can help you read his mind]

Men and women often show their love differently

You can try to prod romantic answers out of the man you love, but it’ll still leave you confused. However, there are ways to know just how much he loves you without forcing words out of his mouth.

For girls, saying “I love you” is the biggest sign of commitment in a relationship. And girls love feeling reassured every now and then.

But for guys, saying “I love you” the first few times is important. Beyond that, compatibility and understanding matter more than anything else. [Read: The 7 different stages of love for guys and how they fall in love]

If your boyfriend or husband doesn’t express his romantic side as often as you’d like him to, it doesn’t mean he’s getting bored of you. He may actually be indulging in many other ways to express his true love for you. But are you really noticing it?

Relationships can be confusing, but it doesn’t have to be that way

Men are not so cryptic as we think they are. But they’re not that easy either. When it comes to humans, we’re all complicated in our ways!

Sometimes you think a guy loves you and it turns out be something else. However, there are also times when you might think a guy doesn’t love you, but he’s hiding his feelings well.

To help you work out this universal conundrum, we’re going to show you the signs a man loves you. However, remember that you need to look for several signs to be sure. Just one or two won’t confirm your suspicions. [Read: What does love feel like? 33 signs you’ll feel when you’re in love with someone]

Not every single guy on the planet will show these signs, but they are pretty common ones, so, you’ll probably spot most of them. Remember, it’s not always what they say, but what they do.

If you really want to know just how much your man loves you, stop letting words play the important part. Instead, watch his behavior and use these signs he loves you to read his mind.

It’ll help you understand your man better and even make you see just how much he really loves you!

1. He remembers what you say

A guy who’s in love with a girl always listens to her and remembers what she says, even if it’s something trivial because he takes her seriously.

That doesn’t mean he’s going to remember every single word that comes out of your mouth, but he’ll have a general idea and he’ll remember the important stuff, if nothing else. [Read: 25 easy tips to make your boyfriend happy every day]

2. He’s chivalrous and treats you like a lady

A guy is chivalrous to a girl when he cares about what she thinks of his behavior. If your guy doesn’t care about you, he wouldn’t care what you think of his behavior.

This goes beyond politeness. It’s about showing you that he cares with small actions, such as holding doors open for you, kissing you on the cheek or lips when he greets you, and generally being a gentleman. This is one of the big signs he loves you.

3. He takes care of your needs

If your man truly loves you, he’d always look for little ways to make your life better, be it about covering you with a blanket when you’re cold, charging your cell phone even when you don’t ask him, or serving you the better piece of chicken when you’re not looking.

These are very small things but they mean a lot because it means he’s thinking of you all the time. [Read: Is he the one? How to know if he’s the one who is perfect for you]

4. You’re always a part of his big plan in life

He speaks about his life and his dreams with you, and you always have a prominent place in all his future plans. It’s warming to hear him talk like this and it’s definitely one of the signs a man loves you.

If he didn’t care, he wouldn’t bother talking about the future with you. He wouldn’t do it because he doesn’t see you as a part of it. So, if you hear him talking like this, it’s definitely one of the signs he loves you.

5. He holds your hand

If a guy instinctively holds your hand when you’re in a crowd, or places his hand on your back while crossing the street, this is a big thing.

It’s a reflex action that neither of you may realize. If a guy loves you, he’d definitely want to protect you and reassure you. This is his small yet significant way of doing just that. [Read: What is PDA in a relationship? The full guide to every aspect of it]

6. He values your opinions

One of the signs a man loves you is when he values your opinions. Not only that, but he doesn’t take any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinions and having a discussion with you.

That doesn’t mean he’s always going to do what you suggest, but he will take your ideas and suggestions into account and use them as part of his choices.

7. He wraps his hands around you

If a guy wraps his hands around you or stands closer to you when you’re talking to some other guys and having a good laugh, that’s significant. It’s his way of letting the world know that you’re the one he loves and every other guy should back away.

He’s not doing it in a possessive way, it’s a gentle gesture that’s there to reassure you and to let everyone else know that you’re taken! [Read: 21 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend you wouldn’t normally notice]

8. He uses the word “we”

Does he say “we” instead of saying “I” or “me”? If he does that a lot while talking and doesn’t even realize it, it’s because you’re already in his life and his mind.

He’ll do it instinctively because you’re a part of his life and an important one at that. It’s one of the big signs a man loves you and sees you as part of his future.

9. He’s very protective of you

If you’re taking a trip by yourself or even if you’re just driving out with friends, does he like receiving your call after you get to your destination?

If your man can relax only after knowing that you’re safe, no matter where you are, he definitely has a special spot for you in his heart. [Read: 18 signs to know if he’s overprotective and dominating]

10. He’s very interested in your life

If your man loves you, he’d always be eager to know everything about your day, including the little details. That doesn’t mean he wants a full run-down of every single second of your day and who said what, but he’s keen to know what you’ve been up to and how your day went.

Again, that’s one of the signs he loves you because if he didn’t, he wouldn’t care how your day went.

11. The helping hand

He’s always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him *even if he’s busy and he does it while whining and grumbling at the same time*.

He’ll want to show you how strong he can be on one hand, but it’s also about making sure that you’re taken care of and you’re not struggling with anything. It’s cute on many levels! [Read: 21 clingy girlfriend signs and how you can avoid it]

12. He’s keen to make up after a fight

He makes up after a fight just as much as you make up with him. And at times, he even swallows his pride and apologizes first even if it’s not his fault in any manner.

It doesn’t mean he’ll do it every time or he’ll do it straight away, but after a short amount of time, he’ll reflect and realize none of the stress is worth it and you’re better together.

He keeps you informed about his life and what he’s up to even though he knows he has no obligation to do so. He’ll talk to you about what’s happening at work, he might even talk about his family, but that depends on how long you’ve been together.

He does all of this because he wants you to be aware of his life and he also wants your advice when he’s not sure about something. Again, he’s making you a part of his life and it’s one of the signs a man loves you.

14. He shows that he respects you

If he treats you with a lot of respect, that’s a great sign. For sure, everyone should respect one another, but when a man is in love, he shows the utmost respect to his partner.

He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around, neither does he cut you in the middle of a conversation. He shows you that you’re important to him and that he respects you at all times. [Read: How to show respect in a relationship and love each other better]

15. You’re the last person he speaks to at night

One of the big signs a man loves you is when he speaks to you or texts at night. If he loves you, you’d be the first and last thing on his mind every time he wakes up or goes to sleep.

Don’t expect him to text you the moment his eyes open in the morning, but you’ll be on his mind at the very least. A goodnight text is a wonderful thing and it’s definitely a sign of love.

16. He sacrifices his happiness to see you happy

It could be something as small as choosing a restaurant for dinner or giving you the fluffier pillow or something way bigger that can impact his life.

But, the fact that he’s happy to put you first whenever he needs to shows that he values your happiness and your comfort. It’s a sign of chivalry and it’s a major sign of a man in love. [Read: 9 relationship stages that all couples go through in their lifetime]

17. He makes a lot of effort to fit in

If he makes a lot of effort to be liked by your friends and family, it’s because he knows they’re important to you and that means they’re important to him.

He cares about what your friends and family think of him and he also understands that their impression of him will affect your relationship with your friends and family.

18. He can’t stay mad at you

When he’s mad, he can’t stay mad for more than a couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other for long, it hurts both lovers too much. So if he takes the effort to apologize or accept your apology, he really does care about you and your feelings. It’s one of the big signs a man loves you!

19. He talks a lot

If a guy loves you, you’d find that he opens up really easily to you and talks a lot about everything, be it his life, his plans, his work or even about how annoying his friends really are.

But, don’t expect him to talk about every single deep emotion he feels. Some guys just aren’t good at that, whether they’re in love or not. The point is, he’s willing to try and that’s one of the signs he loves you. [Read: 35 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get closer]

20. He loves spending time with you

He goes out of his way to be with you. And if he has to cancel a date for any genuine reason, he’d do everything it takes to make it up to you on the next date.

He loves spending time with you, even if it’s simply sitting and watching the TV together. It’s that closeness that bonds you and allows your relationship to grow.

21. He stands up for you

No matter what you’ve done and no matter where he is, he’ll always have your back. A man who truly loves his woman will stand by her side even if she’s in the wrong. He may criticize you in private, but never ever in public. [Read: 21 secrets signs of a bad relationship that signal a bad future ahead]

22. He never forgets your special days

Be it your birthday or anniversaries or a big day at work, he doesn’t forget. And he goes out of his way to help you prepare for any big days or events in your life.

From surprises to small gifts, he’s keen to show you that he cares by remembering the special days in your life. He loves to see you smile.

23. He doesn’t get annoyed with you easily

While everyone gets annoyed occasionally, he doesn’t tend to get annoyed easily with you. Even if he’s busy and you tease him or fool around with him, he’s patient enough to see your playful side and actually quite enjoys it! [Read: 18 qualities of a good man that sets him apart from the lesser men]

24. He makes a fuss of you at social gatherings

While you’re out at social gatherings, he never gives any girl more attention than he gives you, even if he meets a celebrity.

He’s not going to be stuck to your side all night, but he’ll let you know that you’re on his mind even when you’re over the other side of the from. He has no problem showing others how much he cares about you.

25. He’s your biggest supporter

He builds you up and pushes you to achieve. And he shouts it from the rooftops when you do well. He holds your hand when you’re worried about going for something and failing, giving you the confidence to give it a shot anyway.

The guy is your biggest cheerleader and supporter. You know why? Because he loves you and wants you to do the very best you can.

26. He’s concerned about your wellbeing

Of course, a good person will be concerned about another person’s well-being. But if your guy is concerned about yours as much as or more than his own, that’s a tell-tale sign that he’s in love!

He wants you to be healthy and happy. All of these are signs a man loves you. He cares about every aspect of your life. [Read: What a boyfriend should do if he wants to prove his worth]

27. He’ll do anything to make you smile

If you’re happy, he’s happy. It’s because he loves you. Of course, when I say ‘anything’ I do mean within reason. If nothing is too much trouble and when you smile, it’s like his world has just brightened up, it’s one of the very clear signs he loves you big time.

28. He encourages you to move toward your dreams

It’s easy to be worried about your partner moving toward their dreams because you worry that they’re going to move away from you in the process. However, if he puts that aside and wants the best for you, that’s one of the biggest signs a man loves you!

He wants you to achieve in life and he wants you to have what you dream of. Of course, he also wants to be a part of that so be sure to include him wherever you can. [Read: Controlling vs Caring – A thin line that’s hard to see]

29. He talks about the future with you

A guy isn’t going to dream about the future you both have together if he’s not in love. So, if he’s talking about ‘one day’ and picturing the two of you still together, that means he sees a long-term future for your relationship. It’s something to be extremely pleased about. If you see the same thing, of course!

30. He shows you that you’re a priority in his life

This point doesn’t necessarily mean that you are the number one priority, because we all have full lives to lead, with family problems, friends, and everything else.

If he regularly shows you that you are a top priority in his life, it’s a very good thing indeed. [Read: The right priority in a relationship – How to find it and focus on it]

31. When you’re not around, he misses your presence

Of course, it’s easy to miss someone when they’re not around at any stage of a relationship. You don’t even have to love them. However, if you can recognize several of the other signs on this list and he misses you when you’re away, he’s in love!

32. He would ‘probably’ give you anything you asked for

It doesn’t mean that you should ask him for anything you want for the hell of it. But you have a sense that if you asked him to do something for you or give you something, he would do so, within reason. We don’t do those things for people we don’t care about. It’s one of the signs he loves you, for sure. [Read: 12 key moments in a relationship that will predict your future together]

33. In all honesty, you can feel it

Of course, the biggest signs a man loves you aren’t things you can actually see, but things you can feel instead. If you just feel that there is love radiating from this love, then that means there probably is. Learn to trust your gut.

34. You’re a solid part of his life

Basically, you’re in his life, really in it. You’re not his Friday night fling, you’re his Monday to Monday girl. You know everything he does, he knows everything you do, you talk on the phone all the time, you’re over at his house, etc.

You guys are in each other’s lives, and you’re very active. This is what love is, you’re a part of each other. [Read: 15 ways to prove you’re serious and the real girlfriend material]

35. You’ve met the family

Listen, this one is huge. Men do not bring women home to meet their families if you’re just some girl. If you meet their families, you’re someone very important to them.

They’re proud of you and they’re proud to show their family who they stand beside. This is a huge sign you’re someone he really cares about. [Read: 7 clear signs it’s the right time to meet the family]

36. He goes out of his way to please you

Maybe your favorite cupcake shop is on the other side of town. Well, he drove there after work and bought you one. Did he have to do it? No, but he wanted to surprise you with something you like.

If he takes the time to go out of his way to please you, then he has feelings for you. No guy wastes their time like that if you meant nothing to him. [Read: Does he love you? 20 sure signs he just can’t hide]

37. He loves being close to you

He loves cuddling with you and watching movies. He loves sitting beside you during dinner or standing next to you at the club. He wants to be beside you, why? Because he loves you. If he’s close to you, there’s a reason why. If he wasn’t into you, he’d be wandering around the club, hitting on chicks.

38. He makes an effort to please you in bed

Men who don’t care about you, well, they’re not concerned about pleasing you, they’re concerned about ejaculating.

If a guy really cares about you, when it comes to sex, he’ll focus on pleasing you and making sure you experience satisfaction. With love, they know it’s not all about them, and they don’t want it to be only about them. [Read: 14 surefire signs your guy thinks you’re smoking hot!]

39. In trouble? He drops everything for you

If something happens to you and you call him, he drops everything to come and help you out. This is someone who cares about you.

If he couldn’t give a shit that you just got mugged, he doesn’t love you. Someone who literally stops everything to help you is someone who really cares.

40. He pulls away

We know, this one sucks, but it’s very common. Men get scared when they feel that they’re losing control of their feelings. If he feels he’s falling in love, sometimes, instead of telling you, he’ll pull away.

You’ll feel him becoming distant and cold while he pushes you away. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you, it just means he’s scared.

Unfortunately, when this happens many girls assume that their guy has lost interest and they start to pull away too. We all want to protect our feelings in the end. That’s how many relationships that had major potential never really get off the ground. [Read: Why men pull away: Their reasoning and your response]

41. His friends know all about you

Before you even met them, they’ve already seen your photos, your Facebook, the whole nine-yards. He wants to show you off to his friends. He wants them to see the girl that has his heart.

This is a huge deal, men don’t introduce their one-night stands. If they introduce you to their friends, they’re proud of you.

42. The look – you know the one

You know what look we’re talking about. It’s that moment of silence and he’s staring, really looking at you. In that moment, you know what he’s thinking, he loves you.

Now, does that mean he’s going to tell you? No. He could be scared or shy, but if you see it in his eyes, you know how he really feels. [Read: 23 signs he’s falling for you hard and is really serious about you]

43. He really only has eyes for you

It’s normal that a man checks out other women, you do the same when a good-looking guy walks by. But you can feel when a man is in love with you, he isn’t really looking at other women.

He doesn’t feel the need to chat to other women or go hit on someone at the bar. You feel that you’re the only woman in his life. [Read: 12 signs he wants to be exclusive and committed to only you]

44. When you’re a bitch, he sticks around

We can all be a bitch sometimes. we know that, you know that. In fact, you probably just cringed thinking about it. But if he sticks around during these moments and doesn’t just peace out and tell you to call him when you’re off your period, he really cares about you.

What guy would hang around you while you’re lashing out at him? Unless they’re chained, not many and this is one of the real signs a man is in love.

45. He tells you he loves you

Well, if he tells you then this just cancels every sign we wrote. But really look at him when he tells you, you’ll see it in his eyes. This is going to be not only a relief for you but also the moment where you get to put your guard down and tell him that you love him.

That is, if you love him too. If not, you’re going to have to let him down easy, he just confessed his love for you. [Read: How  to respond to “I love you” when you just don’t feel the same]

If he’s showing you signs he loves you, hold him closer

There is no guy on the planet who is perfect. That means he will sometimes make mistakes, just like you will.

However, if he’s showing you he loves you with the signs above, then that means he’s doing his very best.

Love is complicated. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to think or feel. The best advice? Follow your heart. If you care about him and feel pretty sure that he feels the same way too, respect and love each other. Then, see where the future takes you.

By being open to whatever comes next, you can build a strong and loving relationship that stands a good chance of lasting.

[Read: How to know if you’ve met the one already – the checklist you need]

So does your man indulge in all these non-verbal gestures? Use these signs he loves you to truly understand just how much you mean to your man and just how much he loves you!

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